Contrary to the whiny connotations of the subject, there’s a different purpose for this bit of text. I test my compatibility with all the girls I meet. Compatibility is very low. But even if I feel I should get to know a girl better, they’re generally already in a relationship. This is a huge conflict of interest to me.
Would you wage war to “win” a partner -away- from their current partner? Would you secretly influence someone to leave their current partner for better prospects, i.e. you?
I keep considering it, and my answer seems to be the same every time.
If someone you like isn’t strong enough to figure out what they want and need from life, what are good choices to make, etc., then why would you want this person to choose you in the first place? Can you really trust someone who doesn’t have the guts to leave whoever they’re with?
I don’t know how much I can trust someone who doesn’t have it in their mind to move on and seek better things. I’ve known many girls who wait for guys to come to them, even while in a relationship, and then change boyfriends rather quickly. Heck, happened in my last relationship, so I get it. But girls? Everyone is watching you. No one is gonna respect you unless you can show them you respect yourself. If you don’t respect yourself, then the only men you will attract are ones who also don’t respect you.
I didn’t have a need to write this, but I decided to. I don’t write enough opinion pieces, which often leaves me feeling like I lack substance. I know I have substance, but if I’m too afraid and unwilling to propagate my views, then no one sees that substance. Basically, deal w/ it.
